Probably about two out of three marriages have serious problems at some time although, as we have seen, only half of these will end in divorce. So what can someone who is worried about his or her marriage do?
Talk it over between yourselves-Read this far you will already have learned enough to have answered some of your main problems (we hope!) and throughout the rest of the articles you will find answers to many others, which you will be able to discuss with your partner. Ignorance of the facts is only one area of trouble, albeit an important one. Feelings are the biggest problem when things go wrong and often one cannot share one’s feelings about someone else with them. At this point a third party becomes almost essential.
Talk to a close, trusted friend-Don’t go around sharing your marital and relationship problems with just anybody or you will receive so much conflicting and unprofessional advice that you will be even more confused. Also, it may feel embarrassing for you and your partner when things improve. Seek out a trustworthy friend and talk things over rationally and confidentially. Bear in mind that a friend will tend to take your side because he or she likes you and will not want to offend you. A true friend will tell you the bad news along with the good, but such discussion can put intolerable stress on the friendship and may even kill it completely. Because there are so many problems with all this, lots of people do not confide their marital problems to friends or family but go straight to professionals.
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