SEX AND SEXUAL PROBLEMS: ERECTILE FAILURE1

March 23rd, 2009

When a man has trouble getting a full erection, or maintaining it, both partners have to face sex as an issue. About forty-five percent will have a physical cause like diabetes, heart disease, or the side effects of drugs. Others will have a psychological cause. Whatever the cause, there are tests to find out the problem … and there is almost always something to help.

It’s very threatening for a man to admit he has a problem with sex. The first time his penis fails to rise to the occasion can be very alarming. If it starts to happen regularly it can be devastating. ‘Erectile failure’ can make you feel like a total failure. It raises questions about your concept of manhood, it undermines your sexual confidence, and brings doubts about the future of your relationship.

If you feel uncomfortable talking about sex, it can be really hard to ask for that help, so many people just put up with the problem, kid themselves it doesn’t matter, or deny there is a problem at all. Impotence investigations involve ultrasound scans of the blood vessels carrying blood in and out of the penis after inducing ah erection with a tiny injection of a drug directly into the tissue of the penis. Obviously that’s nobody’s idea of a good time, but because getting the right treatment depends on finding out exactly what’s causing the problem, they are necessary.

Too often both partners simply ignore the problem, don’t talk about it, pretend it isn’t important. If only people could talk to each other about sex they would learn about each other’s feelings, and find solutions together.

When we talk about alternatives to intercourse, particularly in the case of erectile problems, it may be easier said than done. If you have always believed that ‘real sex’ means penis in vagina then that will be a difficult concept to change, but it will help to know that arousal, erection and ejaculation are totally separate mechanisms. You can still ejaculate without having an erection. It’s a matter of finding a type of stimulation that is acceptable to you both.

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